Estelea's Blog

French Mum, humanitarian, restless explorer and doer on sabbatical in Cebu (Philippines): one Attila in each arm, I am exploring the “toddlers safe” corners of the region, while trying to keep some room for Me.

Why it feels so good to undress a military

bradleycooperas

I am not American. I have never supported any war. I am not in the military nor have any relative in the army. Foremost, I am a former aid worker, whose aim was to help the victims of the cruelty of wars.

Still, I really liked American Sniper (not only because of my incurable crush for Bradley Cooper).

I have been tremendously touched but the tribute to SEAL Chris Kyle because it tells you in 1h some of the greatest things I learnt from my years working in war affected countries, and dealing with combatants from all sides.

I’ll always remember the last ICRC briefing before I was deployed to South Sudan. The words of our trainer, a former high ranked military, have stayed with me since then. “you have to look beyond the uniform. Remember that you are talking to another human being, probably a father, a husband, a son. You are probably sharing more than you think”.

Bradley-Cooper-MAIN

Can you really judge a book by its cover? undress, redress and feel how it changes your feelings…

Those words were my mantra when I was stuck in check points in Sudan and Liberia when my heart was dramatically racing at the mere view of an AK47. I repeated them over and over, trying to figure out what I could have in common with those guys who had the power to kill me in a blink of an eye.

Working in the humanitarian field is emotionally draining. All you see, all the people you are talking to, all the risks you take will constantly challenge your faith. Your protective wall of certitudes will explode, leaving everlasting  bruises deep in your heart.

I used to blame the militaries. The only responsible of the horrendous mess we humanitarian were cleaning. Brainless body builders, the loudest at the bars, zooming at anything wearing a bra, like starving dogs.

This was before Liberia. Before I was assigned to train soldiers and contractors on the respect of International Humanitarian law. I thought those guys would be yawning all the way, or even laugh at me when I’ll start explaining the Geneva Conventions. I was so wrong.

Those classes enabled me to really talk with those men, to gather their experiences, to listen to their stories. Some would wait till we meet in parties to tell me the stuff they would not share with their colleagues. I got used to see them in civilian clothes, and this time, spontaneously ask them about their families and their home.

I was told to have “the smile of my little sister”, “the eyes of my fiancée”, the “laugh of my best friend back in college”.. . All the stories started with the same “ I have always loved my country” or “you know M’ame, I am a proud American”. But the roads were so bumpy after this departure line. I remember this Dan, so silent during our class, who once took me aside to show me his little digital camera. Dozens and dozens of self portraits. “I take a picture of me every morning. I died in Iraq. Since I came back, I don’t feel anything anymore M’ame. I take pictures to prove myself that I am still alive”. John the womanizer whose macho behavior used to irritate me so much, once confessed “My wife have no clue of who I am. My kids don’t know me. We only see each other 1 week every 3 months you know. I don’t know them, my wife said I failed them. I am a vet, but what would I do back home, hon’? I earn a lot as a contractor. At least I can pay for the studies of the kids”. Dean the big bear, a paramedic kiwi. heshomeHis optimism and his childish sense of humor were a breath of fresh air in those discussions. We all knew that the huge Mike would never join a volley ball match on Sunday morning. Nothing could make him miss a skype session with his 3 yo son.

We are all driven by our ideals. Mine was to serve the innocent victims of wars, help at my little level in promoting a culture of peace. Theirs was to protect their country, their families back home. At the end of the day, if you take off the uniform, the weapons, the badges, and talk to the individual, we are all the same: we all have families we want to protect, we all want a peaceful world.

That’s why I liked American Sniper, for showing us some ideals; The soldier’s missions are not mine, their means will never be mine. But I am truly respecting them. Cheers to peace, to times where aid workers and soldiers will all be jobless, finally!

bradley-cooper-body-1103089176

Yep, on my way Bradley! Book us the sun beds by the pool!

Advertisements

16 comments on “Why it feels so good to undress a military

  1. smalltowngirlsmidnighttrains
    February 22, 2015

    This touches my heart so much. Thank you for writing this.

    • estelea
      February 24, 2015

      I was a bit upset when people started debating about the propaganda of it all, talking about the pro and cons of the war.. We tend to forget the men, the real men, whose job is to protect us, finally. I am not a pro military, but I am blessed to live in a peaceful country where I never needed them. Too easy to judge.

  2. Ann GrubbsnCritters
    February 22, 2015

    Yep. Cheers to peace and to times where aid workers + soldiers to be jobless. I second that sentiments. Unfortunately that would probably be a lifetime away and Bradley’s 8 pack would converge into 1.😉

    • estelea
      February 24, 2015

      Hehehe, into one 😀 Bah, that’s fine with me, I ll teach him French then (although he is pretty fluent already. On top of the rest 😛 )

  3. LifestyleswithLia
    February 23, 2015

    Estelea, I’m so moved by this post and by the work and experiences you’ve written about here….Thank you for sharing with us the emotions and the feelings that military members had expressed to you. I am grateful for all military members!
    Thanks again for posting this…

    • estelea
      February 24, 2015

      Thanks for your very kind message! At the end of the day, what matters more is who you are, whatever the uniform. They are driven by a cause, sacrifice a lot for it, and there are lots of people over there who have a heart as big as Chris Kyle’s .

      • LifestyleswithLia
        February 24, 2015

        Thanks again Estelea for this post and your lovely words here… Have a splendid rest of the day!

      • estelea
        February 24, 2015

        Big warm, sunny and sandy hug!

  4. that traveling nurse
    February 23, 2015

    This is so moving! I don’t have any family members who are military but I have some friends who are. Thank you for this sensitive yet light-hearted post! Hats off to all humanitarian/NGO workers!

    Too bad Bradley didn’t win the Oscar… but he still is cute 🙂

    • estelea
      February 24, 2015

      Thank you very much dear 🙂
      Yep, Bradley is still cute, but somehow I found it more protective and sensitive with a few extra pounds..

  5. trablogger
    March 22, 2015

    Now that is an unknown face of Estelea uncovered 😉

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Information

This entry was posted on February 22, 2015 by in My 2 cents worth and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , .

Check them out, they are awesome!

Wish to Dish

Celebrating food and all the joy that comes from creating and eating it.

Motherhood Made Me Do It

Surviving kids, marriage and life with only the suggestion of sanity

giaspora.wordpress.com/

Geopolitics, Economics and Culture .... a view from the Philippine Diaspora

Yours Truly, Dimi

Inspiration. Aspirations. Exploration

Photography Journal Blog

The ramblings of a photographer who is trying to improve

Grammy Writes

and takes pictures, and travels, and...

GreenStitched

all your sustainability stories, together

Journal Edge

An online blog with highly informative, cheerful and inspirational articles for people who love travel to India with passion and make a different Lifestyle. Vikas Acharya is the founder and managing editor at Journal Edge Online Blog. Contact me to find out how I can help you create high-quality blog content, lead magnets, ebooks, and web copy for your business.

La Rioja and the world seen from my guardaviñas

Sharing ideas. Photos, travels, music, History, stories,...

Indrosphere

All conditioned things are impermanent

Elizabeth Beer

Yoga Life for the Determined Yogi

runsurfyogagirl031

runsurfyogagirl031

Traveling around the world

Traveling with God blessings

rachelmankowitz

The Cricket Pages

Yves-sama

You've Arrived.

Petite Girls Guide

Bipolar and Mental Illnesses are written about here. Written by a bipolar person themselves.

Darwin on the rocks and around the world

Photography and travel blog

%d bloggers like this: