French Mum, humanitarian, restless explorer and doer on sabbatical in Cebu (Philippines): one Attila in each arm, I am exploring the “toddlers safe” corners of the region, while trying to keep some room for Me.
Occidental men of all ages, if you are looking for a beautiful girlfriend, come to the Philippines!
Ask any Caucasian male how his ego feels in the Philippines, the answer is unanimous :” like a God. I would never dream of attracting so many beautiful women back home. And so easily“. The rudest ones would add “country of cheap booze and cheap stunning women!”.
Does it mean that those Filipinas who work in bars and sadly well known clubs have better tastes than us Occidental women? “all they want is to get pregnant, they are a bunch of gold diggers, real bitches” is how most expat women (and rich Filipinas) will tell you. While their husbands will probably nod their head and smile at each others, silently recalling one of those “incredible ride, Mate, for hardly 10 bucks!”
What if those girls’ horizons were so defeated they would consider any Caucasian as THE ticket out of poverty? Can we even figure from the comfort of our warm house what it would mean to have to sell your body ? to let a total drunk stranger do whatever he likes with you so you can simply feed your family and make sure you still have a roof upon your head? Given the choice, who would choose such a job?
HIV rate has became endemic in the Philippines, most of the girls working in those bars are under age and probably infected. But they are able to make money, that’s all that matters to them and the ones who depend on them. You wouldn’t believe how many times I heard this naive statement from very pretty teenagers working in beauty salons and other nails shops: “it’s better to have a child from a foreigner. They are very beautiful and foreigners always pay for their children“.
Al Jazeera published a gallery of pictures today about the “Philippines’ generation of sex tourism children” Most of the comments drove me totally crazy. They come from those stupid kind of people, the ones who believe that counting other people’s sins can only make you a saint.
When not condemning those women, the comments were incredibly harsh about the fathers.
“Swan, disgusting perv, old pimp“.. I can not totally disagree a priori. But again, who are we to judge all the men going to prostitutes? Some of them are so very naive, there are countless stories of mature men from Europe, US or Australia who met a beautiful Filipina online, came all the way to marry her and went totally bankrupt in a few months. Foreigners can not buy land in the country, so they would buy it on their girls’ name. The “loving wife” would just have to wait till the place is totally furnished and kick the sponsor out. There are so many sad stories of foreigners having to pay their Filipina wife in order to see the baby they just had. They are inundating the Facebook pages of all the groups of expats in the Philippines who are looking for advises and testimonies of other men who’ve been there. New stories every day!
What do we know about all the fathers reported by Al Jazeera? Would you judge your brother for a one night stand in the midst of his divorce back home?
I have a neighbour of 70 years old who recently married his former helper, a woman of hardly 40 from the province who “is not looking at me as if I were already dead“. He won’t leave her like her former husband did, with 3 children. She once told me he treats her well and he is not drinking. There is a story behind each person. There is a reason they act the way they are. If we all spend more time praying for others instead of talking about them I bet we would get better results.
I will always deeply feel for are the innocent children born out those “love story” who are left without a father to even support them. Mr Pinkerton never came back.
What if instead of judging people by their past, we would all stand by them and help repair their future? So those kids can have a far better life than their parents’ and be the cherished, happy and confident people they deserve to be.
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